Notes…
1) Video 01: Day 02 (2025)…
Doughty opened his 20-30 minute video discussion noting that challenge participants would be learning their stories about love. He emphasizes how individuals get in life a direct reflection of:
what they believe they deserve;
who they believe they are; and
what their beliefs about reality are.
A cyclical process where we have:
a BELIEF (or STORY) > which generates…
FEELINGS (or EMOTIONS) > which then generates…
THOUGHTS that are equal to that feeling > which then generates one to take…
ACTION (or NOT to take ACTION) > which then generates a certain…
RESULT in your life which reaffirms the…
BELIEF (or STORY).
As an example, Doughty noted that if we believe that the process of attracting love is going to be hard, and something you have to force, that is going to be something that is projected into the experience.
BELIEFS and STORIES can be changed easily, as moment by moment, you are a new version of you. Beliefs can be shifted.
Become aware of your BELIEFS and then LET THEM GO (LET GO and LET BE).
Your BELIEFS are not who you are. You are not your thoughts… become versed at letting thoughts go through a neutrality practice such as meditation. To BE PRESENT and AWARE. Meditate for 5-10 minutes each morning and evening.
2) Video 02: Day 02 - Core Beliefs Meditation (2025)…
This video discusses a powerful meditation technique to help you identify and become aware of your core limiting beliefs about love and life
Homework
ARTIFACT 01 > Doughty, Aaron. “Story Meditation.” Vimeo, 2021.
Use the meditation to help fill the form about personal beliefs in the previous section
See Day 01 & 02 Ohm Work.
Reflect on the subconscious beliefs that emerge during the meditation
3) Video 03: Day 02 (2022)…
In response to one statement by a challenge participant, Doughty opened by noting how a key to 90% of the SHIFT’s transformation process was grounded in AWARENESS. When one is aware of their different aspects of their self, it becomes easier to LET GO. As such, LETTING GO was more important than wiring in.
Another question asked if the Magnetic Love Challenge process could work to attract a specific person. Doughty noted that by focussing on a specific person, it filters out everyone else around us, and by focussing on one specific person it energetically places a lot of pressure and it normally draws them away. As such, it is best to be general with the process and focussing on the qualities you want in a person you hope to attract or the self-love you want to feel within yourself and then embody those qualities within yourself and the things you do. A major key to attracting a specific person is to LET GO of them, which increases the probability of them coming back into your life.
FEEL THE GRATITUDE FOR YOU - there is no one else on this planet that is like you. CULTIVATE SELF-LOVE.
Doughty then led a live group intention activation. Doughty asked participants to “…allow yourself to feel unconditional love and set the intention to send this love to everyone in the group.” He explained how the key to MAGNETIC ENERGY is the degree to which one is willing to OPEN UP THEIR HEART. He also noted that the more one opens up their heart to their self and in general, the more people will be receptive to you and the more you will connect with other people because PEOPLE FEEL WHAT YOU FEEL. During this mini-intention activation meditation, Doughty asked participants to find one memory they are grateful for where they felt really connected and accomplished, where one felt a lot of love…
On June 17, 2010, I drove out to Maple Ridge to visit a breeder of Maltese-Poodle puppies. I wrote on the first photo of Kira on my Flickr page, describing how she was the first of the four puppies to bound forward and lick my hand when I put my hand in front of the four of them. I remember picking her up, her small body fitting in the palms of my hands, her eyes looking up into mine as I held her close to my chest. I felt a love and gratitude from her immediately, one that oddly enough didn’t exist with her siblings and me in that moment. I was sold, and this little angel has been in my life for 15 years now, years I wouldn’t give up for anything.
DAY 2 is about understanding what part of this process can lead to the biggest change. Our BELIEFS / STORIES / MEANINGS create our REALITY.
THE MAP OF CONSCIOUSNESS / SCALE OF CONSCIOUSNESS…
Some notes:
At 250, you have neutrality (awareness through meditation)
SHIFT >
Story
Healing
Identity
Frequency
Transformation
STORY is key, which is BELIEF… we give things MEANING. Everything is neutral, nothing is good or bad. You can re-frame meaning.
OUR BELIEFS (which are wired in automatically usually - mindlessly) generate a FEELING > which results in thoughts equal to the feeling > and the THOUGHTS cause you to take ACTION based on your identity and how you see yourself > and as you take ACTION you get results of that action which fuels and reasserts your BELIEFS
Doughty passionately noted that you are who you decide to be right now. The stories we tell ourselves are flexible and malleable.
A goal of this challenge is to help let go of the old meanings and beliefs we have that may be on autopilot. Doughty noted that we often absorb the meanings of our parents (Dad passes on a nice guy personality to the son; we either take on their beliefs or we push back against them).
90% OF ALL TRANSFORMATION IS AWARENESS.
Observe thoughts through meditation > one for awareness and another for tapping into one’s heart.
LETTING GO > with love your not trying to control it… you’re letting go of the attachments (labels and beliefs) that keep you safe (from being vulnerable or intimate).
MEDITATION is the neutral ground that lets you observe and become aware of your thoughts…
Ohm-Work
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Post #Day2 Meditation Reflection…
Listen to my meditation on YouTube, “Most Powerful Meditation for Attracting a Relationship (Attract Love Meditation)". This meditation is for mind and heart coherence. Do this meditation daily for the full 21 days and see what shifts happen in your life.
ARTIFACT 02 > Doughty, Aaron. “Most Powerful Meditation for Attracting a Relationship (Attract Love Meditation).” YouTube, 18 May 2018.
Share about your experience of this meditation here in the group.
I commit to doing this meditation daily for the duration of this challenge. I understand how “My heart is constantly intending to communicate with me and i open myself up to any message my heart has for me.”
I ask: “What message does my heart have for me right now?”
Steven, you still carry anxiety with you. Let it go. Use your breath as a point of focus. Breathe in through your nose, hold it for two seconds, and breathe out through your mouth. Get more sleep to help rejuvenate your body. Consume less junk food and sugary drinks - consider going on a fast to cleanse your system and restore your energy by flushing the toxins that have built up inside you. When you are fatigued it’s harder to feel happiness and contentment.
I ask: “Is there any message my heart has for me right now in this moment about attracting love into my life?”
To care about others first you must care about yourself and the amazing vessel that you are. Feel the love inside yourself for yourself, the same love and attention you show others, never be afraid to show that to yourself first and foremost.
When Doughty asked: “Whatever feeling is in your heart right now, put your awareness on that feeling becoming magnified times ten. That feeling, that heart center, the turorial energy around your heart is now expanding much further beyond your body. This energy will bring you the relationship you desire. This energy around your body will bring more love to you than you have ever felt before in your life before.” I felt anxious again, but it was easier to let it slide away. But I’m also tired, as I don’t get a lot of sleep, so the tiredness weighs down on me and the emotions I feel. It almost mutes the emotion I feel, to a point where I’m not feeling much of anything at all.
MEDITATION AFFIRMATIONS
Doughty provided the following affirmations near the end of his meditation…
I am whole and complete.
I am love.
I am that which I seek.
The love I want to manifest also wants to manifest me.
There is someone out there who wants to attract me into their life.
I am love. I am loved.
I am grateful for the love already in my life.
People in my life recognize the love in me.
I know that the more i focus on this feeling inside my heart the more i will manifest amazing synchronicities in my life.
I am always in the right place at the right time.
I trust the universe to bring this love, this person, into my life at the perfect moment.
I know that it is just my job to feel this love and emotion, and the more that I feel in my heart center the more I will perceive of this love in my life.
As I go through my day today I will experience more love than I ever have before. I will see how people respond in a new way to me because I have changed my energy field. I am now embodying the true love that I am.
I am love. I always have unconditional love and reverence for all life.
I will pay attention to the things in my life. The relationships I desire are coming to me now and I will see a reflection in that in my life.
Extra Credit…
1) 21 Day Self-Love Challenge
Day 02: Why is it so difficult to say " I love you" to yourself?
Alongside Aaron’s amazing challenge I decided to read and work through a book I have in my Kindle by Ingrid Lindberg called THE 21 DAY SELF-LOVE CHALLENGE. Each day is concisely written so that its theme and challenge doesn’t take up more than 2-3 pages. But today’s prompt hit me hard as it’s been much easier in my life for me to feel self hatred and self loathing towards the person looking back at me in the mirror as opposed to feeling unconditional love and reverence.
Specifically, for Day 2 of her challenge, Lindberg asked her readers to: “…make a note somewhere or simply meditate on the reasons why you feel uncomfortable being kind and loving to yourself” (14).
So here we go. I can’t love myself because:
I’m so imperfect and have so much improvement to do.
I don’t deserve it.
It’s not humble to be boastful.
It would make me look like a narcissist. Self-Love is just lame hippie nonsense and I don’t want to make other people feel bad.
I’m a realist; I don’t live in la-la land. I downplay success and compliments.
I outright fail at, or never even complete so many things I set out to accomplish in life.
I don’t look after my body: I binge eat; I don’t exercise regularly; I developed type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, fatty liver disease, sleep apnea, and I am overweight. I had a stroke in 2023 and can’t even function as a man in terms of being intimate with someone else. Who would want to love someone who doesn’t look after themselves and is physically revolting as a result? Why should I bother loving myself when I’m so ugly?
I don’t look after my mental well being. I have lived with anxiety and depression most of my life, and who would want to be with someone who is mentally unbalanced? Why should I love myself when I can’t even be happy with me?
I place too much emphasis on my negative persistent thoughts. Too often I forget that I am not my thoughts.
I don’t celebrate my efforts. I am a perfectionist, and a procrastinator.
My depression has destroyed my passion for the things I love.
I too often place my self worth on what others think of me, or what I think others think about me. I struggle with my self worth because I too often seek external validation from others.
I have been single since August 2014 and attempts at trying to date always fail to get anyone else to want to date me.
Other people don’t love me, why should I love myself? For example:
My first girlfriend Amanda told me in a letter when she broke up with me that “…she loved me but wasn’t in love with me.” I remember reading that and I broke down sobbing in my car, which I had parked in a spot at a gas station on the corner of Highway 10 and 128th Street in Surrey, BC. Tall fir trees firmed a natural wall in front of my car, reaching up to a bright blue sky. Why wasn’t she “…in love with me?” What made me unlovable? If others can’t be in love with me, why should I love me?
My second girlfriend Sheri also ended things with me, after only a few short months. I remember my guard was up with her, although she had expressed her love and attraction, I never let my guard down. I kept a distance between us, and I know that hurt her a lot and when she was finally gone I realized what I had lost and remember how much it hurt. Like I had been punched in the gut. I did a lot of deep sobbing after that loss.
The next woman I loved deeply was named Lisa. We got along great but this played out similar to Amanda, as Lisa never wanted to date me. I remember one time trying to kiss her, and she wouldn’t let me. She moved her head away so our lips were not close. We had been in a close hug. She knew I loved her as I had always been honest about that. We argued a lot about being in a relationship, it was the only thing we ever argued about. I regret not just accepting that she wasn’t in love with me. It took a long time before I was able to do that, after she had her own first relationship. We were friends for years, she even helped me when I moved into my first place but then she cut me out completely. That hurt a lot. I was even in a new relationship at that time but had hoped our friendship would stay strong. I had been in another relationship before that too, and she was also friends with that ex, Christine. But our friendship didn’t last, and I still feel it was somehow all my fault. I’m sorry I had pressured her, we were young and I violated a promise I had made to myself as a teen to never pressure or coerce anyone I wanted to be with… but I think my promise was more about engaging in intimacy, as opposed to just trying be in a romantic relationship.
With Christine I feel bad because she was a very good friend. This was similar to what happened with Sheri, I had someone who cared deeply for me and was even “…in love with me,” but I didn’t feel the same in that I kept my guard up. It felt like it was too good to be true. It tied back I think to high school when I was bullied a lot - I think I felt that others can’t love me because they are just pretending to love me because they want to ultimately punish me. Christine ended up seeing someone else before dumping me and I don’t blame her for that. It hurt because I knew I had again pushed someone away who had loved me.
I can’t remember my ex Jessie ever saying “I love you” to me at any point in time during our 7+ years together as a couple… she did write it in holiday and birthday greeting cards but never said it to me. She cheated regularly throughout our relationship and we never did anything to try and fix things. Eventually she left me for the man she would marry. One time I glanced at her phone while we were photographing fireworks. She was texting him and it was very intimate, as she spoke about how no one had ever turned her on like he had. It made me feel unloved and deeply inadequate as a man who had failed at making her feel like a woman. She never spoke to me intimately as she did with him. But I blame me for not pulling back when I first found out about her infidelities. I said I wanted to work things out, I was head over heels for her. We had a big trip planned that I had paid for and I did not want to lose out on what was already spent on flights etc. I also felt if I couldn’t make things work by staying committed to fixing the romance, I would be a failure at being a partner for anyone.